Can you be too nice?

Like I said in my previous post the week and kinda now month has been a bit rubbish.

I would say I have approximately 2 friends. Two very good friends and a couple of other people I am friends with but its kinda of when and if I see them... not someone I could tell anything and everything too.

Anyway back to the point of this (I promise there is a point) my friends, and many of the people I work with when they see me upset about things that go wrong in my life, always say but "you are so lovely","how does this happen to you, you are so nice", "your always so kind to people" etc etc etc...

So my thought is can you be too nice. Many of the people that know me, know I would do anything for anyone that needed help... NO MATTER WHAT! If I could help I would.

My parents of say I go to overboard on gifts and the thought I put in to gifts starts in about February and I'm finally finished about Christmas Eve.

Basically my brain is always thinking of others before me.

So can you be too nice? And if you are a kind hearted person do people take advantage of this?

I don't know.

I have been hurt a lot by family, friends and even just acquaintances. And I think because i have been hurt, I never want to hurt others.  But do I need a boundary to avoid continuous hurt.

Of course I'm not saying be horrible, or to never think of others but should you be your first priority?

Caveman instinct is to protect yourself right? Maybe I should take this on board, but I never want anyone to feel like they are unloved or never thought about because thats how I always feel, and I know how awful it is.

Somehow I don't think one blogpost will make me change.

But it is definitely something to think about and maybe in certain areas of my love I should put me first a little bit more.

Anyway on a happier note ... ITS NOVEMBER ... And what does that mean CHRISTMAS!!!! and everything that comes with it.

I am very excited to start playing christmas tunes.

Any way leave your thoughts? and lets hope November is a good month!

Lots of love Laura x